Military Weddings
Information about military weddings and invitation etiquette for military personnel will help reduce stress before the big day.
Military Weddings
Information about military weddings and invitation etiquette for military personnel will help reduce stress before the big day.
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Military Weddings, Ceremonies and Etiquette
Military Wedding Ceremonies
Three things distinguish a military wedding from any other, making it a memorable experience for both the wedding party and the guests:
Attire: The bride or groom wears their military uniform. Other service members may also wear uniforms (active duty, retired service members, or cadets) as they often serve as groomsmen or saber bearers.
Rank: Military rank is included on the wedding invitation.
Arch of Sabers Ceremony: This salute is conducted outdoors (weather permitting) immediately following the wedding ceremony, welcoming the couple into the Army.
Couples may marry at a West Point location if the bride or groom is a USMA graduate, actively duty stationed at West Point, or dependents of active duty personnel stationed at West Point. Note: Weddings are not held at West Point on Saturdays with home football games.
Arch of Sabers Ceremony
This military wedding tradition dates back to the 19th century when the bride was not a military member. A saber bearer sometimes gave her a pat, a "sword swat," on the back side as she exited a "saber arch“ formed by raised swords - symbolizing a playful welcome into the military family. This part was often accompanied by a phrase like "Welcome to the Army." The gesture was considered a lighthearted way to acknowledge the bride’s new status as part of the military community.
Typically, wedding ushers act as saber bearers. However, other uniformed service members (active duty, retired, or cadets) may also serve in this role. The Arch of Sabers is customarily conducted with six saber bearers, although four or eight is acceptable.
Couples interested in adding the Arch of Sabers to their wedding ceremony should contact the Cadet Hostess Office with the Directorate of Cadet Activities. The office assists with the social development of the United States Corps of Cadets, focusing on social etiquette and military protocol.
Saber Bearer Instructions
These may need to be amended based on the location of the Arch of Saber ceremony and weather conditions.
Exiting the church, the saber bearer positioned as the last person in the LEFT line is generally who gives commands and introduces the newlyweds. The bearer placed as the first person in the RIGHT line is who welcomes the bride/groom/couple to the Army.
- "Carry, Sabers.” (Saber bearers come to attention with sabers at their shoulder.)
- “Forward, March.” (Bearers march into position. If there are stairs, they position themselves on the stairs, starting at the top, every other step or every two steps, depending on the number of bearers.)
- “Mark time, March.” (Bearers march until all are in their appropriate positions.)
- “Ready (or Detail), Halt.” (All movement ceases for bearers.)
- “Center, Face.” (Bearers turn and face the center.)
- “One Step to the Rear, March.” (This command is given if more room is needed for wedding couple to walk between the two lines.)
- “Present, Sabers.” (Bearers bring sabers to their chins and hold until given the next command.)
- “Arch, Sabers.” (Bearers fully extend right arms while rotating wrists. A true arch is formed by rotating their arms in a counterclockwise direction and turning the saber blades up and towards the sky.)
If other bridal party members will also walk between bearer lines, the bearers should remain in the "Carry" position until all pass. The command of “Present, Sabers” is not given until the wedding couple approaches.
Only the newlyweds will walk under the arch. They pause before reaching the first set of sabers bearers. The bearer positioned at the TOP LEFT will introduce the couple, or sometimes the officiant will announce them.
When the couple reaches the final two saber bearers, they close their sabers by bringing the sabers down to cross at waist level and request a “kiss” for passage. The bearer may say something like, “The price to pass is a kiss.” After the newlyweds kiss, the two front bearers lift their sabers.
If the pat is included, the saber bearer positioned at the bottom right (closest to the person receiving the pat) would give a GENTLE PAT and say something like, “Welcome to the Army, Mrs. _____________.” (or "Ma'am" if the person is in the military, or something more appropriate to the couple). The couple then proceeds forward. If the pat is not included, the bearer may say something to the effect of “Welcome to the Army, (state their rank/names as directed by the couple)."
Orders are given to:
- “Carry, Sabers.” (Sabers are brought down from the arch. Bearers return their arm to their side and their sabers to the shoulder.)
- “Left and Right Face, Face.” (Bearers perform the correct facing movement to march back to where they started.)
- “Forward, March.”
- “Mark time, March.”
- “Detail, Halt.”
- “Fallout.” (Bearers return sabers and gloves to their case for the lead saber bearer to return to the USMA Cadet Hostess Office.)
Recommendations from the Cadet Hostess Office
- The Arch of Sabers is a military wedding tradition, so saber bearers must wear their military uniform.
- The wedding couple should select one bearer to be in charge of the rehearsal and execution of the arch ceremony.
- Talk with the couple beforehand to be able to execute their wishes for the arch ceremony. Ask if someone is to receive a pat. If so, ensure they are aware of this at the rehearsal. How would the couple like to be announced?
- After the wedding rehearsal, saber bearers should rehearse the saber ceremony. Wedding attendees will be very close to the bearers; therefore, the precision of its execution (or lack thereof) will be noticed. All movements should be sharp and rehearsed.
- At the rehearsal, determine where saber cases and gloves will be prepositioned for use immediately after the wedding ceremony.
- Saber bearers should be aligned by height on both sides so saber tips can meet, creating the arch.
- Spacing between bearer rows must be wide enough for the couple to pass through easily.
Military chapels at West Point maintain sets of sabers for this ceremony. The Hostess Office maintains six sets of officer sabers for use at weddings not held at a military installation.
Addressing Invitations
Correctly addressing invitations to military personnel is a meaningful gesture of respect. The proper way to address an invitation depends on rank, branch, and whether the military member is on active duty, retired, or a veteran.
The invitation's outer envelope should be addressed with the recipients' ranks (do not abbreviate), full names, and titles. The inner envelope faces the back of the outer envelope, so the names will face the recipient when the envelope is opened.
Ideally, all envelopes should be addressed by hand.
Outside Envelope | Inside Envelope |
---|---|
Sergeant First Class and Mrs. Anthony R. Jones | Sergeant and Mrs. Jones |
Major and Mrs. Gregory Smith | Major and Mrs. Smith |
Lieutenant Colonel and Mrs. Robert L. Burns | Lieutenant Colonel and Mrs. Burns |
Major Mary Williams and Mr. Paul Williams | Major Williams and Mr. Williams |
Captain John Tyler and Captain Erin Tyler OR Captains John and Erin Tyler | The Captains Tyler |
Brigadier General and Mrs. Patrick O’Leary | General and Mrs. O’Leary |
Major Katherine Brown and Sergeant Major Peter Brown, U.S. Army, Retired | Major Brown and Sergeant Major Brown |
Mr. and Mrs. Thomas C. White | Grandpa and Grandma |
Dr. Daniel Smith and Dr. JoAnne Smith and Family | Uncle Dan, Aunt JoAnne, and Cindy Lou |
Contact Cadet Hostess Office
Building 148
2nd Floor
Trophy Point
West Point, NY 10996
(845) 938-4681/3104
DCAcadethostess@westpoint.edu